SOF11: The Sex Factor
Written by Jen on July 17, 2009 – 1:39 am
Procreation is part of being married. And to procreate you need to have sex - anytime, anywhere (limited only by your colorful imagination, haha!).
But how important is sex in a marriage? Is it something that couples can do without? What does sex (making love) mean to you and your husband?
One of the perks of marriage is being able to have sex without fear of going to hell or being struck by lightning. So why not do it?
I believe that sex is the ultimate expression of love and intimacy between a married couple. Even before a couple gets married, there should have been some form of sexual attraction between them right from the start. Personally, I couldn’t imagine a marriage where I couldn’t even bear for my hubby to touch me. That would mean a lifetime of making love without love, having children out of duty, and evetually growing old unfulfilled, lonely and miserable. No one deserves that kind of marriage.
However, although I believe sex is important in a marriage it should not be the main focus of a relationship. Couples should prioritize commitment, trust, communication, and the intimacy part of the relationship.
I’d like to look at sex as a means to an end. Not only is sex a means to have children, but rather as the best and most pleasurable means to keep the fires of marriage burning.
Amen to that Mama mee!
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I think for us Asian, sex is not really as important in a relationship as the Americans. We are not “addicted” to it. Watching Hollywood movies will make you think that sex is a drug one can’t live without.
To me, it is a way of expressing our love and devotion to our partner and also procreate. Isn’t it in the Bible — “Go forth and multiply?”
And Meeya says it all!
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AMEN mamamee!
For me sex, chuk-chak, jugjug, do - whatever you call it- is VERY important in a marriage. Ipokrita ang magsabi na hindi. :p
Sabi nga ng spice girls e ‘it’s two become one’. Dito tayo nagiging isa sa mga asawa natin. Kung wala nito e sana hindi na ko kumuha ng asawa. Kuha na lang ako ng bestprend, di ko pa kailangan ipaglaba o ipaghain ng pagkain. Di ba?
I can recall, there was a time that for two weeks, we didn’t have sex. Nabahala ako. I ask hubby point blank, is there something wrong with us?Not because addicted ako sa sex, but because it is something na dapat pinag-uusapan din ng mag-asawa.Cause what if, ako lang pala ang wala at sya meron sa iba. Or wala na pala sya gana sa akin dahil imbes na amoy pinipig e amoy pilipit na pala ako. And we talked about it, it turned out na so many changes sa buhay buhay namin na stress na kame pareho that at the end of the day sobra na kame pagod to do it. And it turned out well, cause kung di naman napag usapan, baka magising na lang kame bigla na platonic love na lang ang meron kame sa isa’t isa.
Sex - we don’t do it with our kids. We don’t do it with our fathers. We don’t do it with our brothers. And that is what makes it special. Cause sex happens only between a husband and a wife (oh well, sige na nga between boyprens and gerprends. :p)
Sobrang agree ako sayo simplymuah. Panalo ang post mo mare ko!!!!